Home for Christmas

Christmas Day came and we thoroughly enjoyed spending it together in the comfort of our home!

Levi woke up with a head cold and was feeling off most of the day; when Levi gets sick we know it is just a matter of time before the germs hit Malachi. Sure enough by Thursday it had also hit Malachi and he tanked pretty quickly, requiring supplemental oxygen right away. We also started his respiratory regiment (nebulizer, cough assist machine, and CPT shaky vest) to try to prevent a trip to the doctor or hospital. We always run the risk of him picking up something worse on visits to the doctor.

After 12 long days, today was Malachi’s first day being able to sustain a whole day off oxygen!

Levi bounced back pretty quickly and we were able to sneak away from the house and do some fun things close by with family!

Truthfully, this Christmas break has been one of the most carefree ones we have ever had! Yes, both boys were sick but we were able to stay home and just spend time together as a family. And the simplicity was such a gift.

Having Jake home was also a huge blessing, allowing me to catch up on paperwork and phone calls with our insurance battle. Still no final resolution but we are close.

One of the programs we are trying to get as a replacement for the insurance he is losing has some pretty high qualifications to get approved. You have to be able to meet “institutional level care”, meaning that Malachi has to qualify for care that requires skilled nursing services in a hospital or residential institution. This qualification is actually really hard to get, even for a child that shares many of his diagnoses.

This program is our “Hail Mary” play, one final desperate attempt to get secondary coverage for Malachi to cover the things that his primary does not. We have had several zoom meetings, and met with a third party evaluator and we finally received a letter that he qualifies for institutional level care. Jake and I read the letter and high-fived each other, overjoyed for this small victory.

But when I finally sat down to really process it stung a little bit and didn’t feel like much of a win. We focus on what Malachi CAN do, so these last few months of focusing on all of his deficits have been mentally and emotionally challenging.

We still have several papers to complete to make it to the next step but it seems our backup plans may be fruitful.

Changing gears to share a cool story…

Last week I had an appointment with a new ENT and in our conversation the topic of Levi’s airway came up. The doctors eyes lit up and he shared that he did his residency at Vanderbilt and asked if Levi was a patient there. I told him that we transferred him to Cincinnati for an experimental procedure called the Anterior Posterior Cricoid Split (the first experimental surgery we tried on Levi). He excitedly told me that he had done several of those on children at Vanderbilt with the same condition as Levi (bilateral vocal cord paralysis).

I smiled and said “I bet it was after January 2018!” He thought about it and said “Yes, it was later that year that we started doing those!”

Back in December 2017 we were desperate for solutions for Levi’s condition that didn’t involve a trach. In our intense research we found an article about this new procedure that Cincinnati Children’s Hospital was doing for kids like Levi and talked with the surgeons there who were very excited to take on Levi’s case. At this point they had done 19 of these surgeries.

Our secondary insurance said that they would only cover the transport and surgery if it wasn’t one available anywhere in the state of Tennessee. So the phone calls began to prove that no one in the state was offering this surgical option. We had to call all of the big hospitals in the state.

Our Chattanooga pulmonologist called Vanderbilt and asked about the procedure. The Vanderbilt doctor was intrigued and read the article we had found. He replied “No, but we are going to doing them now. Send him over.”

I panicked. I wanted Levi to have the procedure done, but I didn’t want him to be the first one at a hospital who had never done it. But without the Vanderbilt surgeon explicitly saying “No we do not offer this” we would not be able to get the transport to Cincinnati and the subsequent care covered. We asked the Chattanooga doctor if he could call back again and the Vanderbilt surgeon finally begrudgingly agreed saying “I will tell you no this time, but if you call tomorrow with another patient then I will tell you that yes, we do offer this procedure.”

So fast forward to my appointment with this ENT. To hear him say that they had done several of these on children with Levi’s condition starting in 2018 made my heart leap for joy. Yes, they very likely could have found this article on their own and started offering them for a reason other than us. But being able to be a part of the process towards OPTIONS in Tennessee for children other than a trach is absolutely amazing. I think about the hope that experimental procedure offered us during some dark days. Being able to share that hope with other parents is special.

I don’t even know where to begin with a devotional thought tonight. The amount of God moments from the last 14 days is completely overwhelming, and to share those stories with you just doesn’t feel appropriate as they involve so many others outside of our family. We have seen and experienced God’s provision, protection, guidance, and love. We have watched Him make a feast with 5 loaves and 2 fishes. And we have seen Him be glorified within incredible suffering around us.

This week I am treasuring those moments in my heart, and thankful for a God who allows me to witness His goodness.

And finally, here is a video of Malachi from this morning; it was his first oxygen free morning in a very long time and his sweet giggles brought me joy; I hope it does the same for you.

Much love,

Leah

2 thoughts on “Home for Christmas

  1. Happy 2024, to you and your beautiful family! I love getting these updates on the boys, and I so appreciate your thoughts and the way you handle being a main care giver, as well as being the mother to 2 medically fragile boys. ♥️ As a prior Healthcare worker, in many different areas, in the OR, in patient care post op, in home health as well. I loved my job! I miss it so much. However, back in the fall 0f 2019, my best friend, Diane, took gravely ill with what we now know was un-named covid at that time. I fought night and day to nurse her back to health without a dreaded hospital stay, and God blessed us with that prayer answered! She never quite bounced back from that, as we both were hit hard with it that fall, me being the 1 0f us to get it. She had long haul covid that lingered until Feb of 2021. She then was so weak, she couldn’t walk 15ft from her recliner to her kitchen table. My heart was so 💔 I ached to have my lively Diane back! As I watched her struggle to lift her soup spoon to her mouth, I instantly snapped from ” friendship ” mode to ” caregiver ” mode. It broke me to think about separating the my feelings in order to give her my best care. I didn’t think I would be able to care properly as her best friend vs her caregiver. Which brings me to you. Do you struggle sometimes to separate those feelings? And if you do , h0w are you able to keep those 2 separate feelings free from each other? Understand me that I was giving her the best 0f the best as her BF, the same as I was as a caregiver. But, just like when I was working jobs n was paid, some of my patients became friends, and in those cases you do have to keep those feelings/ titles separate. ( I hope you understand my question) Sadly, Diane chose to get the covid vaccine and it caused a main aortic blood clot, paralyzed her from the waist down, sepis set in, ended up.with 3 heart bypasses, a colostomy as well as killing her kidneys, requiring a graft put in f0r dialysis. Her stomach also had to be mostly removed from the sepsis, and God in His mercy, took her Home, by brain death from the sepsis. I would value your thoughts on how I ( in the future) to separate my feelings from caregiver vs best friend, should this ever happen again. I know Diane was ecstatic at how I handled her n helped to keep her out of the hospital, with the help of home remedies, along with certain antibiotics and meds prescribed by her Dr. It was a very rough few weeks in the unknowns! So I do understand your position with your boys, all too well. Please know I daily pray for your whole family! You’re a stellar mother, wife, caregiver, amongst all the other titles you wear that not everyone realizes or understands. I do. And I do care!! May the peace, mercy, grace and love of Jesus surround each one of y’all in thos new year. I ask for Jesus to place a hedge of protection over and around y’all, each day God wakes you up. Please give both of your miracle boys a big hug from this Aunt Jessie, who has loved and prayed for them since i found y’all around the time of Levi’s birth. I’m so proud of how they are growing up and learning new things everyday! 💓 I also pray for the Lord to keep blessing you with the strength needed to deal with all the moments that come, but especially those hard moments. May you know you are so loved!! ❤️

    Blessings, Jessica ( Jessie)

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